Topic Title: I am new here, too...questions
| |  "I am new here, too...questions"
, Fri 22 Aug 21:02
Hi, my name is Patty, I am 26 and I live in central Florida. This site looks great! I think it's a great base for a support group, and you all here seem so friendly. I need that. I just started taking SJW today at the recomendation of a psychotheripst I went to see. I am taking the GNC Standard brand. I almost already feel an effect, as I seem a bit more mellow tonight then most nights the past couple weeks. My depression started a couple month ago, probably last April. I thought it went away by itself, but a new relationship had me at an all time high with my depression, all starting a few weeks ago. I started to have relationship issues, and am now obsessive about the guy I am seeing. I am like wanting him every minute of the day, and he doesn't want anything serious right now, he says. Anyways, thats a long story and to keep it short, I am now depressed, and therefore taking SJW. Has anyone else here experianced anything similar? Depression that stems from relationship neediness/obsessiveness? Does SJW help with that? Will the need to "call" him, "talk" to him, "be" with him, diminish after a while of taking SJW? I want to feel better and not be so needy towards him, which is driving him away..and I know I am ruining a potential good thing. I know deep down its a loosing battle to have him the way I want, but the need is still there. I am going off in a tagent. I am excited to take my next pill in the morning, as I want this stuff to make me better. I hate sleeping all the time, crying all the time, and bugging him all the time. My depression and neediness is even interfering with my job.
If anyone here would like to be chat/email friends, let me know.. I would sure like that..as I dont have anyone who understands me to talk to. People at work already labeled me crazy cause I went to see a therapist. :-( I opened my big mouth, telling people my problems at work..and now I am labeled. Anyways...sorry about my tagent. Any response to my questions would be great.
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| |  "Re(1):I am new here, too...questions"
, Fri 29 Aug 12:51
Dear Love Obsessed,
Now that you've reconnected with your Man, be sure to not put all your eggs in one basket, meaning be keep up with your casual friendships and in the interim consider seeing more of them than Him. A tough task I know, but we sometimes tend to exclude our friends for the company of lovers, not good. Take care, we are all concerned for one another here.
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| | | "Re(2):I am new here, too...questions" , Fri 29 Aug 14:35:
Thanks Teddy, I am actually taking that advice. It's now 1 week into me taking it, and I feel better than 2 weeks ago. I have more energy and today I went to get my oil changed and out to eat with my grandma, and visited a friend I haven't seen in over a month. As for my love life, I am getting a bit better with SK. I am about 50% where I want me to be with the way I should be about him. I have off this weekend for 4 days in a row, which ISN'T helping because I wanted to spend some (if not all) of it with him, and he is "So, busy", but I am calmer about it, and I am hopeing he may still want to see me Saturday or Sunday night. One thing that IS helping, is I met a new guy that I just started talking to via phone and internet, and lives near by. So maybe with the new guy, I can ween myself from these feelings I have for SK. Who knows, as I am pretty mellow (in my eyes) about everything now, I kinda have the attitude of what ever happens, happens. I am not putting much thought into it as before. Well, I am babbling again. Bottom line: SJW has lifted my depression 80%. I am currently looking into something to supplement the SJW for my anxiety. 5HTP is $25 a bottle, and Kava Kava isnt sold on the shelves here, and seems expensive to order. So I am still looking around Kelly's site for ideas.
-Patty
[this message was edited by onehourphoto77 on Fri 29 Aug 14:39]
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| | "Re(1):I am new here, too...questions" , Tue 26 Aug 12:08
Hi Patty
At last someone who can identify with what I've been through and am going through now. I haven't had one single successful adult relationship and I'm now 35! I can identify what I'm doing wrong but somehow cannot ever stop myself doing it, same old repetitive self destruct behaviour!
I have now been taking SJW for 12 days and am praying with all my heart that it helps me and i hope it helps you too. Hang on in there things can only get better!
Kind Regards
JMD
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| | | "Re(2):I am new here, too...questions" , Tue 26 Aug 20:06
JMD, would you like to be email friends? Since were both going through similar stuff, we can relate. My email is [email protected] Email me, I look forward to hearing from you :-)
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| | "Re(1):I am new here, too...questions" , Sat 23 Aug 05:20
I see where you got the name onehourphoto, appropriate. I think there have been post on this site about relationships and obsession. Its hard to say which came first, you know the age old question, the chicken or the egg? The SJW does help with depression.
I think in the off topic chat, maybe a month or two back, there is posting on relationships and obsession. Everyone put their 2 cents in about what Not to do(with a bit of humor also). Its a tough place to be where you are. There are a lot of us that have been there at one time or another. Let us know how things go.
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| | |  "Re(2):I am new here, too...questions"
, Sun 24 Aug 19:04
This is in response to one-hour-photo. I understand what you're going through, as hard it may be sometimes for us to feel that others actually understand us. I broke up with someone almost a year ago and I have those same 'needy' feelings you experience. I miss him deeply and have somehow convinced myself that I can't possibly function without him, secluding myself in my own little, deppressed, bleak world. Recently, he came back into my life and sadly, those feelings did not go away but grew stronger. You wonder which came first: the depression that gave way to the feelings, or the feelings that gave way to the depression. I ask myself the same thing about my own situation daily. To think that some jerk-off guy is the cause of my depression is in fact more depressing and possibly not likely because we all deal with loss. Perhaps some deal with it better that others, but I feel that at least my situation has grown exponentially into a ridiculous state, which is why I think there is some stronger underlying problem. I just began taking SJW and I noticed right away a change: I was calmer. I can't exactly pin-point what is at the route of my depression, but I have found some solace in SJW. At first, taking it really disturbed me; to think that a seemingly innocuous pill would 'help' me was silly. But it's working, little by little. Keep taking it; i will, too.
Posts: 0 | | Registered: Sun 24 Aug 2003 18:51 |
| | | "Re(3):I am new here, too...questions" , Mon 25 Aug 07:40
Thank you both for taking time to answer my post. I am now on day 3 of the medicine, and I feel even better today than yesterday. I have more energy. I did up my dose to 1200 mg a day, 1 in the morning, 1 in the afternoon and 2 last night. The two last night almost knocked me out cold and I kept waking up every couple hours last night. But this a.m. I woke up with more energy, I actually am watching TV which I haven't done much of in 3 weeks, and am putting laundry away, which I haven't done in about 2 months. I guess it also helps that this morning I got to talk to SK (the guy I referred to in my first post.) I asked him where I stood..and I at least got out of him "We're definately friends" "We're more than friends" "Were moving forward". I dont know, but I guess I took that as a good thing, and its better than him saying "Get the f*** out of my life". Now I just need to learn to control my obsessivness give him the space he has been wanting. And hopefully go with the flow. I need to accept that I can get hurt and if I do, I need to be able to cope with it. Anyways, there went my tagent. I am going to keep on SJW, as I am thinking this will work for me if I can keep going and take it like I have been the last few days.
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