Topic Title: Feeling Worse on Birthdays...
| |  "Feeling Worse on Birthdays..."
, Tue 18 Mar 17:01
I've just replied to a post and while doing so, realised that my 24th birthday is nearly upon me.
I was wondering if anyone else here shares my absolute dread and almost hatred of birthdays?? I am always prone to thinking about and focusing on what I haven't done and achieved as oppossed to what I have, and what went wrong instead of what went right. Also I dislike being the 'centre of attention' (but I have always been fairly shy and quiet).
Is this a common thing, or just one of my idiosyncrasies?
D.
Posts: 293 | | Registered: Sat 13 Oct 2001 17:39 |
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| | "Re(1):Feeling Worse on Birthdays..." , Fri 9 May 20:26
It is great reading all of these discussions.I have not looked forward to a Birthday or Christmas or New Year's Eve for many years.I have two beautiful children 6 and 2 and said to myself enough is enough!I am taking SJW for about 6 weeks after thinking long and hard about it(medication) and am looking forward to my birthday in july.I am much calmer and patient with people and can't believe my wife and family put up with so many mood swings and anger before.I feel I have reached the sunnier side of the mountain.Don't be scared to take SJW!! Think of all the drugs espaecially illegal that other people are taking!! SJW is HERBAL!!!. Bye for now from Dublin,Ireland!
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| | "Re(1):Feeling Worse on Birthdays..." , Tue 18 Mar 19:24
I get this too, but maybe we're both unusual in this... I dread New Year's Eve for the same reason - I look back on the year and focus too much on what I've failed to achieve. On New Year's Day I start to look forward, often with unrealistic expectations.
I actually find it helps to be around people on such occasions, even if that means being the centre of attention, because it helps to keep my mind focused on the present rather than the past or the future. When I don't have people around me I do tend to live in the past or the future much of the time.
Dan
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| | | "Re(2):Feeling Worse on Birthdays..." , Wed 19 Mar 09:14
Hi Dan:
Yes, I’d forgotten about New Years Eve!…I have exactly the same feelings as you describe, particularly primarily focusing on past ‘lack of achievement’ and then setting huge and often unachievable targets for the future.
I agree that people help this to a fairly great extent, last New Year however was different for me, it was my first away from the UK and my first in a long term relationship. I spent literally a period of about 2 weeks in the constant company of people and by the end of it I felt absolutely burnt out and had to have a day or two alone to reconcile my thoughts and evaluate the year just passed….these evaluations were certainly far more optimistic than they have been in past years though!!
Cheers
David
Posts: 296 | | Registered: Sat 13 Oct 2001 17:39 |
| | | "Re(3):Feeling Worse on Birthdays..." , Wed 19 Mar 13:27:
When I turned 35 it was the worst birthday ever, I think it was a mid-life crisis. It was also the worst period of my depression.I didn't know who I was, what the heck I was doing, or where I was going.
David
Happy Birthday!!
MJ DuPont
[this message was edited by Dupont on Wed 19 Mar 13:28]
Posts: 491 | | Registered: Wed 20 Jun 2001 6:19 |
| | | "Message for Dupont" , Thu 20 Mar 15:59:
Dupont,
I'm putting this here when it should probably go in the thread you started in the new 'chat' section, but I think it may go unnoticed there.
Basically, when did you convert to Christianity? Was it during your depression? Did you find your depression led you there or where you there already?
These are fairly important questions for me right now.
Sorry to hijack your thread David. Actually I hate birthdays too, but I hope you have a good one!
juju
[this message was edited by juju on Thu 20 Mar 16:01]
Posts: 171 | | Registered: Fri 3 May 2002 3:4 |
| | |  "Re(1):Message for Dupont"
, Sun 23 Mar 13:56
Juju,
I was raised Roman Catholic, I attended Parochial schools from 1st through 12th grades. Throughout my 20's did a lot of searching about different religions and new age stuff. I was married in the Catholic church, and I am raising my children as Catholics. When my children started school (parochial) is when I became more active. Which also happened to coincide with the depression. Turning to my faith was not something new for me. I think this time the difference was that I surrendered and put all my trust in God.
MJ DuPont
Posts: 495 | | Registered: Wed 20 Jun 2001 6:19 |
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