Topic Title: Should I go for SJW
| |  "Should I go for SJW"
, Wed 19 Feb 08:08
First, I would like to say that I am really impressed with this site, the amount of useful information and the honest discussions and experience sharing. Also, I am really happy for each person that reports on having improved his/her life with SJW, it's encouraging to read these stories.
I am posting because I was hoping to get some advice. I am considering to begin taking SJW but am not 100% sure I should because I have difficulties figuring my problems out.
I have extremely low self esteem, really no self confidence at all and I think it has caused depression in me. Or has depression somehow led to low self esteem??
I feel the whole condition is holding me back to progress in life on many different levels, mainly professionally. I am scared to speak in front of people, mostly because I think I have nothing smart to contribute and that people will make fun of me. I try to avoid meetings and similar situations, and get very anxious if I can't. I feel I am such a slow thinker and that I cannot keep up with the pace of others.
At the same time, I often feel pretty blue, low on energy and I put myself down. Honestly, I think I'm not very smart and that I got my job (I work as a researcher in a magazine) only as a result of luck. Everybody here knows so much more than I do.
I wasn't always like this. I had quite a lot of good friends when I was around 20, but now -10 years later- the number of friends and acquaintances has dropped to sad levels.
Last week I felt really unhappy, everything and everybody seemed to be against me, I was tired and felt so useless and alone. All I wanted is to get out of my routine here and leave things behind to start new. This may partly help, but I feel there's more to it. It might be that my basic "configuration" is not right. Other people say they haven't realise for long that they were depressed. Maybe that's me too?
I don't think about suicide or hurting myself, but my quality of life is not as it should or could be I believe.
I am too scared to take antidepressants like Prozac because of the side effects. I won't touch it unless I have no option. But SJW seems different
If there's anyone who has had a similar experience or someone feels like commenting I'd be grateful. Thanx.
Posts: 0 | | Registered: Wed 19 Feb 2003 7:34 |
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| |  "Re(1):Should I go for SJW"
, Fri 21 Feb 02:45
Papillon,
I wanted to respond to your posting because I truly hope that you will give SJW a try. Like yourself, I wasn't sure if my emotions were because I might be depressed or of something else. I found this website and decided to start SJW, which I have been on for about a month now. I can honestly say that I wish I would have considered taking it a long time ago. Before SJW I came to the conculsion that my problems were my problems and I had to deal with them. I realized after starting SJW that things didn't have to be the way they were. I didn't have to hate my life and myself all the time. It was actually suprising to realize I didn't have all those negative thoughts racing through my head constanly. I still have my bad days, as I am sure everyone who reads/posts on this website does. SJW is not a cure all but it can be used as a first step in the right directiion. A big Thanks to everyone who joins in on this website:)
Melbee
Posts: 2 | | Registered: Tue 28 Jan 2003 1:27 |
| | "Re(1):Should I go for SJW" , Wed 19 Feb 13:05
Hello Papillon:
From all that you've said about how you feel...feelings of low self esteem, lack of self-confidence and the rest, it sounds like you're chronically but moderately depressed. I highly recommend that you take St. John's Wort, standardized to contain 0.3% Hypericin. If you live in the USA, I highly recommend GNC's brand. Take 3 of them a day, along with Vitamin B-complex and other vitamins. I take my SJW with vitamins in the morning. You need to give this a few weeks to kick in though I felt the results on Day 7. Read Kelly's advice under General Information on the website. I've noticed through the years that the nicest people often have feelings of low self esteem, while the bastards seem to think very highly of themselves!! I'll bet you're a very nice person and are being unrealistically rough on yourself in thinking that people look down on you. I doubt that very much. The best of luck to you and let us know how you're doing once your mood is dramatically lifted by St. John's Wort. I kid you not, it has helped MANY of us who post on this website.
Jeanette
Posts: 94 | | Registered: Wed 25 Sep 2002 5:50 |
| | | "Re(2):Should I go for SJW" , Thu 20 Feb 11:40
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words, Jeanette. I think you're right that I do suffer from some form of depression and I have decided to start taking SJW now.
As soon as I have a first impression on how things go I will keep you posted. It kind of helps to share thoughts with people that understand.
Also, I have a similar impression about quite a few nice people suffering from lower self esteem while seriously bad characters often seem to have enough for 20 people. I guess that's just the way it goes.
Anyhow, I hope I'm heading for better times now.
Papillon
Posts: 1 | | Registered: Wed 19 Feb 2003 7:34 |
| | | "Re(3):Should I go for SJW" , Thu 20 Feb 12:50
Hi Papillon,
A lot of what you wrote struck a chord with me. Depression has caused me to lack confidence in myself and this has held me back in many ways, especially at work. I too feel like I'm a slow thinker, and that I'm not as creative or perceptive as others around me. I lack energy and motivation. I often don't take my ideas seriously, and I feel like others don't either, so I haven't fought hard enough for them.
I've kept the friends I had 5 years ago, but I've moved around a lot since then, and as my depression has worsened I've found it more and more difficult to make new friends in each new place. The resulting loneliness only makes the depression worse, of course. I've often felt the urge to just leave everything behind and start afresh, and I've tried this a few times. It's always exciting and energising at first, but without treating the underlying depression I've always lapsed back into my old ways.
I've had these problems on and off since I was a teenager, and now (in my mid-twenties) I've finally recognised them as depression. I started taking SJW in December and it really seems to be helping. I hope it helps you too.
Dan
Posts: 84 | | Registered: Sat 14 Dec 2002 17:8 |
| | | "Re(4):Should I go for SJW" , Fri 21 Feb 03:58:
Hi Dan
Just as what I wrote struck a chord with you I feel about your response.
It's amazing, what you said about this sort of vicious circle of depression, moving around, loneliness, the excitement to be in a new place and then falling back into old habits - I could have said that!
I think this is the reason why I have tried in recent years to move on and that's why I'm trying to do the same now again. I feel there's no place where I should settle. I feel like this for more than 10 years now!
But you're right, it won't change anything on a fundamental level. And I have recognised that. Today I will start to take SJW.
I am glad to hear that you feel SJW is helping you, I wish you all the best. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me, it does help.
Papillon
[this message was edited by papillon on Fri 21 Feb 03:59]
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| | | "Re(5):Should I go for SJW" , Thu 13 Mar 13:03
i am a first time user of this site actually only been on here for about one hour. and while i enjoy surfing the internet for info i am in general very cautious about the info i read and have never bothered to "connect" with strangers on the net. but i am so far very impressed with what i have read here and it seems to me(the cynic that i am)that this site is "genuine"
Make sense? I truly believe that people who society views as "mentally healthy" are people that generally can be very selfish. if you are a pretty decent person trying to get by in this world you will at some point in your life have feelings of sadness, depression, whatever you want to call it. So whatever leads a person to these feelings whether it is chemical, post traumatic,etc. whatever the reason-as soon as you feel down get help. although the older i get the more i try to live in today and not the past, i have lost literally years of my life to depression, at least nowadays there is more help available and people are admitting more, the stigma of "mental health issues" has lessened. good luck to all of you "real people" out there who are just trying to feel good and live a decent life.
One last thing of all the things i have learned over the years i must say that i am more and more baffled by the amount of people i meet that end up on anti depressants. this is not at all a judgment I am one of them but it seems that everybody i know is on them.i have many theories but who knows, right?
maxine
Posts: 0 | | Registered: Thu 13 Mar 2003 12:25 |
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