Topic Title: My problem
| |  "My problem"
, Mon 10 Sep 13:28
i have one big problem. I have a fear in school to just be myself and say things that i would normally say. I constantly find myself wanting so badly to jump into a conversation with friends and just have fun like everyone else but i always end up not saying anything, and sit there with a bored expression on my face. In classes i always sit in my chair as if im completely relaxed, making no sudden movements (dont want to draw attention to myself) when im actually just nervous and fearful. I fear saying something dumb, being judged, looking stupid, standing out, and blah blah blah, and this prevents me from showing people in school the "real me". The "me" that friends and family get to see. In school im considered, quiet, relaxed, serious, shy, calm, and aggrevated, basically beccause of my casual body movements and blank facial expressions. On some days where im feeling really happy, i act myself. I have fun with friends, im the center of group conversations and everything, but this is a rare case. I was wondering if st johns worts, kava kava, or paxil, or ANYTHING would help me to feel more confident and less uptight in school, and to just let me relax and be myself without always worrying about what others think of me.
And yes, i have talked with my psyciatrist and parents about it. I HAVE tried other things to overcome my fears, but what im asking is about medicines now. Just stating that because in another forum everyone kept telling me about other stuff :)
Posts: 2 | | Registered: Thu 6 Sep 2001 14:59 |
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| | "Re(1):My problem" , Wed 17 Oct 01:12
I had the same problem in school (I am 50 now). I was very shy and terrible in social situations.
My suggestion has nothing to do with SJW or 5HTP:
Somewhere along the line, when I was in my 30's, I realized the only way I would be able to get over this was to simply not care what anyone thought of me, and to consider any mistake I made in public to be something I could laugh about, as if the one who had made the mistake was someone else. This also kept me from taking things personally.
It takes getting out of yourself to do this, so that you don't feel attacked by others. Self-consciousness is just looking too much at yourself, which makes you feel like everyone is looking at you and pushing in on you. If you keep your attention focused away from yourself, you feel relief.
For me, it started with the attitude of "I don't care what anyone thinks about me", and then I really paid attention to not putting attention on myself or looking inward.
I don't know if I would have been able to do this when I was a teenager. It took years to realize it and do it, so maybe I wasn't ready for it when I was younger.
Posts: 2 | | Registered: Tue 16 Oct 2001 23:26 |
| |  "Re(1):My problem"
, Mon 8 Oct 15:41
Oh my god, i feel totally the same- reading your message has made me feel better, im 17 and i know somethings up but i feel stupid being so young and thinking somethings wrong with me, but ive finally taken teh iniative and have tried SJW- it didnt work unfortunately, but im going to keep trying until something works- and you should do the same, i know how you feel. I just want something to lift this feeling so i can become myself without it holding me back. Try new things and if they dont work at least you know- its all worth a try, e-mail me with your progress and i'll let you know about mine- presuming we are of similar age etc. things that work 4 u may work me. Good luck, take care.
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Posts: 19 | | Registered: Sun 9 Sep 2001 14:41 |
| | "Low stress tolerance" , Fri 14 Sep 12:26
Sounds to me that you might have an inherited "low stress tolerance," which is usually discovered in an individuals teenage years. When I was 13 I had my first social panic situation. I progressively got worse and always wondered why it was so hard to be confident. Now at 37 I finally realize my situation and have been taking SJW with good success. SJW, like Paxil, allows for more serotonin to be used within the brain. Your description is social anxiety disorder and that is a symptom of low stress tolerance. A personality transformation will likely occur, for the better, once you become chemically balanced. Low stress tolerance is actually a chemical imbalance where you don't produce key nuerotransmitters for proper functioning of the brain.
BTW, about 10% of the population has a low stress tolerance, so you are not alone. Although when 90% of your peers are "fine" it feels that way. I understand your situation and just get help while you're young.
website about low stress tolerance:
http://www.teachhealth.com/stresstolerance.html
Posts: 5 | | Registered: Thu 6 Sep 2001 7:42 |
| |  "Re(1):My problem"
, Thu 13 Sep 02:46
Hi Growingpains besides Buspar (I guess you have mentioned on the
other post )what other medications had been prescribed and did you ever took them and what are the results ?
Huffin Puffin...
Posts: 13 | | Registered: Sun 2 Sep 2001 13:36 |
| | | "Re(2):My problem" , Thu 13 Sep 11:38
ive never been prescribed any medicine except for buspar... this is the first med ive been on, i see that its helping some, but its not helping as much as i'd like. i've been on it for 4 days so i guess i need to wait longer to see better results
Posts: 3 | | Registered: Thu 6 Sep 2001 14:59 |
| |  "Re(1):My problem"
, Mon 10 Sep 17:50
I suffered with social anxiety like you throughout my school years, college and beyond. Looking back I only wish I had known about any of the meds mentioned in this forum, sjw, kava kava, 5htp they all help social anxiety to some extent. I have had great luck with 5htp. I would suggest trying one of the meds mentioned with the approval of your parents if under the age of 18. These are a much better choice than the "recreational" drugs that you may be tempted to try in order to ease your anxiety. As a matter of fact, most recreational drugs, and alcohol will make a serotonin deficiency worse. 
Posts: 63 | | Registered: Wed 20 Jun 2001 6:19 |
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