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Topic Title: lexapro
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, Wed 9 Feb 15:54
does anyone know about the medication lexapro??? my husband has been taking the medication for 2 months, and has now decided that after 10 years of marriage and 2 kids, he wants a divorce. it was like he just woke up one morning and said i'm done...no warning, i didn't even see it coming. his explanation is that his medication is great, he feels great on it, he has self confidence now and he sees everything clearly now...i am left heartbroken and very confused, wondering if maybe the medicine has something to do with his odd behavior...this behavior is not typical of him...anyone have any answers???
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| | "Re(1):lexapro" , Wed 13 Apr 11:49
Hi, my boyfriend was put on Lexapro by his doctor in Missouri. He lives in CA and I drove from Chicago to Missouri to meet him for his appt. to be put on something for his depression. He was told to exercise, at least four times a week for 20 mins and to go on job interviews even for jobs he didn't want, just to get out there. He was to be on this drug for 6 weeks. I did not think he should be on drugs at all but I supported him.
We moved in together in CA (again) and I have been wondering why I put myself in this position. All we do is fight. He never listens, refuses to talk and constantly puts me down. His apt. (even his friends call it his, not mine) is trashed, he never does anything around the house including make any room for me. I have told him time and again he is living like a bachelor and I'm there visiting him, instead of us starting a life together. He ignores me and discounts everything I say or feel. I wondered why on earth I would have come back to this. Why? What was there that made me try this relationship again?
Suddenly on Thursday I put 2+2 together and realized the reason he was never affectionate, held my hand, cuddled me at night and so on was possibly due to the drug. I kept telling him he should get off it, it was only s'posed to be 6 wks., it's been 5 months and he never exercises or did anything his doctor said to do except take the drug. (By the way, his doctor sent him more drugs after the first supply ran out without even talking to him on the phone, charting his progress or ANYTHING. And my boyfriend hasn't paid a penny for them, said they were samples the doctor was probably given for free from Lexapro and is trying to get rid of.)
We were able to have a serious talk that night about the way things used to be and we went online to Lexapro.com and other sites by people (like this one) and found out a lot of stuff the doctor never mentioned and he actually said he was going to stop taking it. I said maybe he should ween off but remembered I'd asked the doctor back in November what he does when he's done and the doctor said, just stop taking it. So my boyfriend quit, just like that. I think the dawning realization that he used to have a libido and now has none was what kicked him "awake".
Since then, only a few days have passed and I put him on vitamins and St. John's Wort, and it's almost like it was before. We used to fight tooth and nail but we also used to make up. And be affectionate plus. Up until Thursday we just fought and fought and fought. He said to me that night that he was a little worried because he doesn't feel anything. Emotionally, he just doesn't care. I told him straight out that I was being selfish but I'd rather have him a little depressed and sad than this arrogant, completely selfish, self-serving jerk he's been the last few months. (He took that the right way.) Even in these few days his libido came back. I hadn't realized how unsexy and unloved I felt when he wanted nothing to do with me and now realize it was the drug. But that put a huge, huge strain on the relationship as you can probably guess. But he finally took himself off the drug and we're monitoring him closely for side effects of withdraw and from the vitamins and the SJW.
I can't tell you how many times he's come to me the last couple days and immediately apologized for being a jerk and said let's talk. He actually talks to me again!
I share all this in the hopes that you can try and separate the man your husband used to be to the one he is now. My boyfriend didn't "feel great" on Lexapro but he kept saying he wasn't as depressed and he didn't want to feel depressed. I asked him if he wanted to feel at all because the drug was taking that away from him. It just wasn't worth it but he had to ultimately decide that.
I can't imagine what you're going through, you're married with kids. All I can say is research like you are and see if you can talk to him. If he feels so great, is he cured? No longer depressed? Can he get off the drug then? I can't speak for his doctor, my boyfriend's doctor put him on the 10mg and said it was to be for 6 weeks to help push him over the hump he was in. (He said my boyfriend was failing every single thing in his life. His apartment, finances, job, our relationship...my boyfriend really has major problems but this was s'posed to be temporary.) Can you talk to your husband's doctor? Find out everything you can and for yourself, hold it together. Hopefully this is something you just need to wait through and support him by waiting and holding your family together until he is off the medication and can see what he's done and what he's put you all through. And that you've been the best wife you can be. I really hope it works out. I can't imagine how scared you must be, please keep believing in yourself and your husband. I'm not married and I was out that door so many times but I didn't leave. I still don't know what's going to happen to me and my boyfriend/our relationship but I'm trying.
I hope this helps you in any way.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
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| | "Re(1):lexapro" , Fri 11 Feb 15:21
Yeah that is possible that medication could do that. Wish I felt great on it, unfortunately i was getting horrible death thoughts 3 days into using it so I had to stop.
Its probably because he hasn't felt that good in a long while so he has more confidence now, I am sure he still loves you....he will fall into a depression again if he divorces you!
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| | | "Re(2):lexapro" , Fri 11 Feb 18:53
he has moved out of the house, moved from az to ca, got his own place, opened his own bank account and just started a new life, just like that. it doesn't seem as if there is any chance of talking any sense into him, he just feels so great, it's like all of the sudden he feels too good for his family. does reality ever set in, or is this a medicine that will make him feel great no matter what he does and no matter what the consequences? does it just make you feel that damn good???? great medicine!!
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| | | "Re(3):lexapro" , Sat 12 Feb 08:40
From what I hear about Lexapro, it wears off after a few months...maybe if it wears off for him, he will come crashing back down to earth!!!
Posts: 7 | | Registered: Wed 9 Feb 2005 10:3 |
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