coping with depression, by mazzar (+3 replies) [Archive]

Kelly

6th February, 2006, 01:34 AM

Topic Title: coping with depression - Nov 11, 2001
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mazzar </td><td align=right> </td></tr></table></td><td width="74%" bgcolor=#dddedd> <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/icons/posticon.gif"> "coping with depression" , Sun 11 Nov 13:54<HR SIZE=1> Hi everyone, I would like someone to tell me how they cope with depression and a job at the same time. I am just recovering from my third episode and it was very frightening. I felt all alone even though I had family around me. I distanced myself from friends because I don't want them to know the truth. I feel there is a major stigma on this illness which does not help the sufferer. I felt that everyone was talking about me and I felt a failure but its not my fault I got sick and people do not undertand unless they have been through it. I am a young girl with a future that I should be looking forward to but at the moment I can only take one day at a time. I don't know why I got sick but never want to go through anything like I did for the last 6 months. I start a new job next week and I am excited but also scared. Will I be able to cope, what if I get low again. This are the questions I ask myself. All I want is a quiet life. To be able to go in and out of work everyday and have peace of mind. I would be grateful for any tips you guys out there have to offer. Thanks mazzar

<HR SIZE=1>Posts: 0 | | Registered: Sun 11 Nov 2001 13:34</td></tr></table> </TD></TR><TR><TD bgcolor=></TD></TR><TR><TD bgcolor= >
<table width=100% cellspacing="1" cellpadding="5" border="0"><tr> <td width="26%" bgcolor=#eeeeee valign=top> <table width=100% cellspacing=0 cellpading=0 border=0><tr valign=top><td align=left> MikeJ </td><td align=right> Home Page <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/home-1.gif" border=0> </td></tr></table></td><td width="74%" bgcolor=#dddedd> <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/icons/posticon.gif"> "Re(1):coping with depression" , Tue 13 Nov 17:59<HR SIZE=1> I'm glad for you, believe it or not. Some people go through their whole life repeating depression cycles. You found the strength to post here, express your symptoms very well, and are clearly trying to take care of yourself. Perhaps the worst aspect of depression for many is the isolation. Depressed people often feel as you do - nobody can "see" your pain, so they can't relate. If you had a broken leg - less severe than depression IMO - you'd at least get some breathing room. But with depression you're expected to go on, do something to help yourself (like read a book), and "get over it." After 43 years of alternating peaks of high-achievement and valleys of despair, I'm finally sick of it. I'll do anything for a "normal" life (though I've never had one). You're learning early to go on the offensive, so you have so much to look forward to! SJW seems to work very well for me (over two weeks now), though it took a little getting used to. I think SJW helped me rise above my depression enough to look at my diet, lifestyle, and the way I perceive the world. Before, I could do nothing for myself but live day-to-day. Oh, the lost opportunities - loves, friendships, family. I'm so happy for you that you will learn to manage your depression so early. Find that hope, and when you can make changes. When you can't find the energy, try to be brave because the dark feelings will pass. I know it's a tough road and often terrifying, but belive that you will find your way out. There's a better way to live - know that - and you will find it.
<HR SIZE=1>Posts: 5 | | Registered: Sun 28 Oct 2001 13:50</td></tr></table>
<table width=100% cellspacing="1" cellpadding="5" border="0"><tr> <td width="26%" bgcolor=#dddedd valign=top> <table width=100% cellspacing=0 cellpading=0 border=0><tr valign=top><td align=left> han_sol0 <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/faces/Robin2.gif" border="1" width="32" height ="32" ></td><td align=right> Home Page <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/home-1.gif" border=0> </td></tr></table></td><td width="74%" bgcolor=#eeeeee> <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/icons/posticon.gif"> "Re(1):coping with depression" , Mon 12 Nov 07:21<HR SIZE=1> It sounds to me that apart from depression you suffer from anxiety. I would suggest Kava kava root to help calm you down. I am 25 and have been depressed for a very long time. In fact for about as far back as I can remember. I was basically an automaton, going to school and work because it's been expected, taking a sick day here and there when I just couldn't deal with it anymore. I've felt pretty much emotionally empty for a very long time. I know other people who have also been suffering for years, and take prescription pills that affect them in other ways, while helping with their depression, it hurts other things. I saw radical changes in a couple of them and vowed never to see a shrink that would screw up my head or take pills that would make me some kind of messed up addict. Recently I hit the bottom. I felt worse than any other time in my life. I contemplated letting everything go. I thought about getting rid of everything I own and joining the armed forces, just to get away and have someone tell me what to do, because I could not care. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, and I was completely miserable. That is when i decided to turn my life around. I decided what I needed to do that I had not been taking care of, and decided to work on that. and one of those things was to not be miserable, even if it meant taking the pills that I hated so much. Luckily I found this site while I was researching alternatives. St. John's Wort with Kava Kava has really helped, so has exercising and doing stuff to feel better about myself, including going out more often with friends. In short, I've attempted to change those things in my life that gave me the biggest grief. Remember, it is only after you have lost everything that you are free to do anything. You have to give up. Give up your pain, give up your fear, give up your anxiety, and heal. allow yourself to realize what you need to fix, and make yourself a list. check them off when you have accomplished your goals, add new goals if you come up with them. Make yourself a list of things that you have to do every day and make sure that you do them. sometimes focusing on the little things help you to accomplish the big things. I hope that some of this helped.

<HR SIZE=1>Posts: 40 | | Registered: Sun 14 Oct 2001 12:40</td></tr></table>
<table width=100% cellspacing="1" cellpadding="5" border="0"><tr> <td width="26%" bgcolor=#dddedd valign=top> <table width=100% cellspacing=0 cellpading=0 border=0><tr valign=top><td align=left> Dupont <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/faces/USAHockey.gif" border="1" width="32" height ="32" ></td><td align=right> Home Page <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/home-1.gif" border=0> </td></tr></table></td><td width="74%" bgcolor=#dddedd> <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/icons/construction.gif"> "Re(1):coping with depression" , Mon 12 Nov 04:40:<HR SIZE=1> Medication, therapy, praying, reading...I think a combination of things helped me to overcome depression. At my lowest, when I felt I just couldn't go to work, I took a couple of days off, then I told my boss about the depression, and he was very supportive, but he told me that I should have told him sooner. It took me just about 2 years to overcome the depression, and I make sure everyday that I'm doing the right things so that I don't get sick again. Things like taking a small dose of 5htp, vitamins, & amino acids, I watch what I eat and drink (alcohol make me depressed). Exercise, and when I start thinking negatively, I stop it ASAP. Let me recommend a couple good books: "breaking the patterns of depression" by Michael Yapko is great for changing the way you think. "potatoes not prozac" and "Depression free naturally" have great nutritional advice. Therapy was also very important to my recovery.I went through 3 therapist before I found the right one, but it is important to find someone who is supportive, that you can talk to. I also used meditation and chakra healing. But I have to say the thing that helped the most was the 5htp, without the medication I don't think I could have done all the other things. <IMG SRC="http://www.sjwinfo.org/forums/graphics/emoticons/greenblob.gif">
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